Difference between love and attraction

“When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out”

 After experiencing a truly loving relationship, I can now clearly differentiate between true love and mere attraction. What is the difference? In his article, I will demonstrate a few key points that illustrate the difference:

·         Love is acceptance of who you are as an individual; attraction without love desires your lover to live up to all your expectations.

·         Love is being flexible if your lover forgets to wash the dishes or sleeps in late; attraction without love blames and criticizes when the other person doesn't do what you expect or want.

·         Love is about being ok with going home early if your lover is tired- there is always another day; attraction without love creates a scene when it's needs are not being met.

·         Love is about quitting, or trying to quit smoking if it deeply bothers your lover and hurts your health; attraction without love seeks to show its independence and prove that it "cannot be controlled".

·         Love does not keep a scorecard and does not hold grudges; attraction without love is vindictive, critical, and competitive.

·         Love is not rigid, it is flexible and formless; attraction without love is strict, defined, and black and white.

·         Love does not see a you and me, but only us; attraction without love is all about the you separate and divided from the me.

·         Love gives; attraction without love takes as much as it gives.

·         Love is ephemeral; attraction without love is material


Ashish Agnihotri
Skyline Business School
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